Many of us find ourselves distracted and overwhelmed by anxious thoughts and emotions. Like life’s a juggling act and the balls keep dropping. We often forget that we define who we are. We can choose which thoughts and emotions to identify with.

Most of us want to thrive. To wake up excited and create endless momentum with what we love to do. But things aren’t clicking. This is what we call survival mode. If you told me years ago one day I’d jump out of bed, excited for my day, before 9:00 am I’d laugh at you.

Are you in…


Learn how to identify and manage toxic perfectionism and positive oriented perfectionism.

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Perfectionism At Its Finest

Perfectionism is a tricky, sneaky bastard. Wearing many masks to stop you from creating something new. One day it’s negative self-talk leading to hours-long YouTube binges. Another day it may be buying your fifth course and spending hours on research. Still not taking the first step. Or running your startup into the ground because decisions take forever to make.

There’s this underlying anxiety that there’s a “right” way to do something. That before you can begin you need to know ALL the answers. So we justify distractions thinking they’re a normal part of the process. When what’s happening is a…


Learning this can help you create massive results

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Some years ago I picked up The War of Art by Steven Pressfield and couldn’t put it down. There are too many mind-blowing takeaways to count. The biggest ah-ha moment was when he described the difference between the amateur and the professional. Most people I look up to encapsulated everything he described as a pro. Then my heart sank a little when I noticed how many of the amateur traits I had.

His words inspired me to immediately revamp my habits and act more like a professional. It’s become a powerful tool to keep myself in check and one I…


If you resist change this is for you.

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“If you were a superhero you would be called the Resistor.” That’s what my husband told me after he showed me a new home decor item he wanted to get for our New York City apartment. My initial reaction was skepticism. Not because he has bad taste. No. He has excellent taste. It’s because I don’t have a decorating bone in my body.

When I don’t know something I freeze and doubt my ability to make the right choice. Eventually, I say yes and end up LOVING what my husband picks out. After a few more times of being called…


Keep reading to develop a happier existence.

Did you know that most of us live in a trance? Rather than feeling vibrant and fully connected to each moment, many feel foggy, irritable, or “out of it”. It’s become so normal most don’t realize it’s happening. Trance looks like rushing through the day, getting lost in thought, forgetting to eat or breathe deeper.

Since I started running two businesses there were days where my first meal was dinner and my laptop glued to my tired hands. My mind felt like a bunch of jumbled cables which fueled my constant anxiety. …


A guided ritual to help you transition into 2021 inspired and aligned.

We did it. We made it through all 67.5 months of 2020. We had to trade in going to restaurants, commuting to offices, and traveling for endless Zoom calls, face masks, and the panic of empty grocery shelves. Valuing toilet paper like it was gold. The world literally forced to shutter and pause.

Then the fault lines of social movements slipped into massive earthquakes of change. Black Lives Matter being a big name this year among others. The grand finale, so far at least, was the presidential election. …


So you can find your sense of self again and live a bolder and happier life.

Many of us struggle to feel connected to our life’s purpose. We want to create a life we love but instead feel burned out and discouraged. So many responsibilities scream for your attention you don’t feel you have room for intention.

You want to design a life you love and see things fall into place. Instead, connection these days looks like keeping up with emails, scrolling social media or watching TV. You’re too tired to do much else.

The good news is it’s never too late. You can become more intentional with your life starting today. You can have more…


If you feel overwhelmed and want to find more stillness and clarity, then this article is for you.

There’s no surprise in saying we can’t escape news about Covid-19. The pandemic. The stress and pain. There’s also a lot of compassion. Love and life.

This post was written before the pandemic and I hesitated to post it. Fearing this wasn’t relevant or sensitive. But then I realized there are people out there (maybe you?) who are using this time to reinvent. Reimagine. Distract themselves in a healthy way.

Let’s be honest for a sec. Peace and balance are harder to maintain these days. Even before the pandemic. With the world literally at our fingertips distraction is king. …


Learn how orange juice can help you gauge your emotional well-being, ways to think about your thoughts differently, and whether you’re a self-defeating or a no-limits person.

“Happiness is not a station in life, a place to arrive at. It’s a way of traveling. It’s a manner of how you traverse the path you’re on, walking each step with love.”

- Dr. Wayne Dyer

Here’s what you’re learn from this post:

1. Learn whether you’re a self-defeating or a no-limits person

2. How the state of your emotional well-being is like orange juice

3. Ways to practice better thoughts for happiness

Science shows that striving for money decreases your happiness. As does giving away emotional responsibility to people you’re in relationships with. You weaken your ability to connect within and make aligned decisions when…


What are some ways we can tune into intention more? Keep reading to discover the power of dreams in discovering the deeper field of possibility…

“Your dreams are manifestations of your vibrational point of attraction, so you can evaluate your dreams to determine what you are really doing with your vibration…and then if you do not wish to live out the dream you have been dreaming, you can do something about changing it.

— ABRAHAM HICKS

In previous posts, I’ve talked about how stillness allows us to create the foundation we need to make decisions with more intention and impact. The ego likes it easy. It’s happiest when you’re living on autopilot and distracting yourself from doing the real work. …

Francesca Phillips

BA in Psychology. Podcaster. Self-development obsessed. Download my FREE morning routine guide to love your mornings again: https://bit.ly/TGSMRGUIDE

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